We spend our whole lives learning to be independent and take care of ourselves. The mere thought of turning that responsibility over to others is terrifying. Remember when you couldn't wait to turn 18 because you'd legally be independent of your parents? That independence is something we all cherish because it's the core of living life on our terms. As parents age, they begin to see this independence slowing slipping away as their cognitive or physical health deteriorates.
It's essential they keep as much control over their lives as possible, so always try to ask if you can help or offer options instead of making major decisions for them. For example, instead of saying "Don't change that light bulb, you might fall!" ask "Would you like me to check or change any light bulbs?"
You can also frame your assistance in the form of a gift by printing a gift certificate for five kitchen cleaning sessions, yard work, or similar tasks that they may be worried about not being able to do on their own. By reassuring them that you enjoy helping you will reassert their independence for as long as possible.
I am okay with the fact that one day I will be that person and hopefully my family will keep this article in mind when their caring for me…But today is not that day, so for the time being I will live my life to the fullest!